I’ve been meaning to write a discussion post since January and I’ve been too snowed under with review copies to squeeze one in, but after seeing several threads on social media about blogger guilt, I figured it was the right time to actually take the time to write down some of the thoughts running through my head!
Guilt seems to be a common feeling for many book bloggers, for a wide variety of reasons. Honestly, any of us feeling bad about things is ridiculous, we have nothing to feel badly about. It’s time for us to collectively let those feelings go and be proud of what we do and remember that we all do this for the love of books.
Let’s talk about the reasons that we feel guilty. We have enormous, overwhelming TBR piles that are being added to daily. It’s a constant struggle to stay on top of things, I know I’m always juggling things around if I’m offered a review copy of a book that just sounds too good to pass up. There are never enough hours in the day, I don’t know that I’ll ever feel like I’m caught up and I’m confident I’m not alone there. So back to my first reason for guilt, you didn’t review a book in the timeframe that you had hoped you would. Now you feel bad, you know the author was counting on you for a review, and again, there just aren’t enough hours in the day! Let’s be real here, we’re not curing cancer, no lives will be lost if we don’t post a review on publication day. I’m a firm believer that a review will help a book gain exposure no matter if it’s two years past release date. Does prerelease hype help sales? Sure, but stressing out because life got busy and you can’t possibly get it done on time isn’t productive. Get to it when you can, I’m quite sure that most authors are very understanding people and will be grateful for a review when you are able. At least that’s been my personal experience.
There were several conversations on Facebook about book bloggers feeling guilty about not always having the time to share others posts and that branched off into not having the time to thank everyone that does share individually. When I first wake up, I’m overwhelmed with notifications. Emails, Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, etc have blown up while I was sleeping. This is especially true if I’m participating in a U.K. blog tour as I schedule them to go live at 2 am my time so it’s morning there. I’m not complaining, I appreciate each and every person that takes the time to share my posts, but there is so much to catch up on! I spend at least an hour while my son eats breakfast going through notifications, then sharing everyone else’s posts, then sharing on Facebook groups, THEN posting the reviews on Netgalley, Amazon, Goodreads, etc. After that I respond to emails, which speaking of that, I used to respond to every single review request I received even if I wasn’t interested. I don’t have the time or the patience for that anymore. I’ve been closed to new review requests since January and if I get an email where I can clearly see that the sender didn’t even bother to read my policy, I just delete and move on. Let me get to my point before this turns into my first novel 😂 If I like a post that you graciously shared, I hope you know that means I’m extremely thankful. I just don’t have the time anymore to thank individually, and please don’t feel like you must thank me either, it’s not necessary. I know you appreciate it. I need to spend every single spare second actually reading if I have any shred of hope of catching up on Mount TBR.
I’m going to stop yapping for now, but I want to end by saying that if you’re ever feeling guilty about blog related things, please don’t! We are not paid for this, we all have life’s outside of blogging and we all do our best. This is supposed to be fun and not something that makes us feel upset or guilty.
Can you relate to blogger guilt? If so, what makes you feel guilty?
(I have so much more to say, but I didn’t want to bore you all to tears so I’ll save that for a part two on this subject)